Based on ethnographic accounts of Muslim survivors of ethnic strife in three cities of western India, and in particular on the voices of women, this paper draws attention to the impacts of such violence on the domains of kinship and family. It explores the implications of violence for the dislocation and dismembering of families, and the fracturing of educational and occupational aspirations of family members. While the kin group forms the first circle of support for survivors, there are also clashes of interest that must be handled. Muslim women in India, in particular, face some specific problems. Their skill levels are generally low and their capacity for mobility, because of community constraints, is hindered. The increasing ghettoization of Muslims in urban India, due to the threat of violence, further confines women survivors and their families to certain spaces and specific neighbourhoods. Women need to access state support and find new avenues of livelihood to support their families. At this very juncture, they may feel the weight of community norms more sharply. As the paper shows, the demands of family and community may be at odds and women have to tread a wary path in the battle to survive and retrieve a life for themselves and their children in the aftermath of violence.