Using social exchange theory to examine relationship processes in asexual‐allosexual couples

Abstract

I use social exchange theory to contextualize relationship processes associated with relationship stability in asexualallosexual couples and to propose directions for future research. Social exchange theory suggests that asexualallosexual couples might experience varied relationship exchanges compared to other relationship types based on costs/benefits, equity, and available alternatives. These exchanges may also be influenced by differences in relationship commitment and power. I review literature on sexual desire, sexual frequency, willingness to engage in sexual behavior, asexual identity acceptance, and extradyadic behavior to examine how these relationship processes are associated with relationship maintenance for asexual-allosexual couples. Such relationship processes are not necessarily unique to asexual-allosexual couples, but partner expectations may be particularly different in asexual-allosexual couples, thus altering their relationship exchanges. Further research may provide a nuanced understanding of asexual-allosexual relationship maintenance, and recommendations for how to promote healthy interactions and relationship satisfaction in asexualallosexual couples.

LGBTQ family building: A guide for prospective parents. By Abbie E.Goldberg, Washington, DC: American Psychological Association. 2022. pp. 295. $16.99 (paperback). ISBN: 978‐1‐4338‐3392‐2

“…Reimagining family science might also mean moving beyond theoretical framing alone, and “queering” traditional family structures and their assumptions. For example, newer literature on family theorizing within asexual‐allosexual relationships (Clark, 2023) works to acknowledge visibility of partnerships which may not assume the core of sexual desire or behavior. Similarly, we might continue to explore different dimensions of nonmonogamies, friendships or platonic co‐parents that can continue to extend our limited perceptions of family.…”