Gün (day), as a specific form of rotating savings and credit associations in urban Turkey, is a distinct ground for women where middleclass values and norms are performed. In this context, the discussions on being a kaynana (mother-in-law) help us to consider the ways in which the notion of conjugal family is central to the self-perception of women. To oppose the role of kaynanas 'in the past' is women's way of claiming to comply with what they perceive to be the 'modern' way of forming a family and, hence, of being 'modern'. This, in turn, helps us to reconsider the ways in which kinship roles are elaborated in different contexts and shows that the ideas about the proper kinship roles shape the relation of people to the people other than their kin. Ekal, Berna (2006) 'How a Kaynana Should Behave?' Discussions on the Role of Mothers-in-Law in Two Gün Groups', European Journal of Turkish Studies, Thematic Issue N°4, The social practices of kinship. A comparative perspective, URL : http://www.ejts.org/document619.html To quote a passage, use paragraph (§). In this paper, I discuss the position of being a kaynana 1 as it is elaborated by women in two gün 2 groups in a middle-class district in Istanbul. Most of the women in the gün meetings have married children and experienced rural to urban migration either before or after their marriage. I argue that, for these women, the discussions in gün groups about the relations between mothers-inlaw and brides / grooms provide a certain ground in which women claim to comply with 'contemporary' norms, which women identify to be in contrast to the norms when they were young brides, as indicated in the expression 'şimdi başka türlü tabii' 3. This feeling of contemporaneity is distinctive of the perception of 'modern', as can be explained with regards to Mitchell's argument that