This article reports on a survey of sixty-one parents (including 27 couples) who had recently experienced the loss of an infant to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). Data were collected on parents' reactions to the death, things which helped with grief, sources of solace, and attitudes to another pregnancy. Some sets of questions were presented twice: in the f m t instance the respondent reported hisher own situation and in the second instance the respondent estimated hisher partner's situation. In some areas, respondents tended to over-or under-estimate their partner's situation. Reported grief reactions and solace seeking were similar for both parents although women generally scored higher on these measures than men. More women than men wanted another pregnancy soon, while men womed more about another pregnancy than did women. It is suggested that an understanding of areas of difference may be important for SIDS parents and for practitioners who work to facilitate the grieving process.The sudden and unexpected nature of a SIDS death plunges h t h parents into crisis. They are brought together through their shared grief, partly because the other parent is the only one who shared the same kind of closeness to the baby who has died. At the same time, reactions to the death and expressions of grief are extremely individual, and the death may emphasize differences or exacerbate pre-existing relationship difficulties (Klass