Background: Guidelines for breech management at term emphasise choice and informed decision-making. Despite this, the choice of vaginal breech birth (VBB), is not always available or accessible. We aimed to describe the experiences of women seeking a VBB as reported in primary research and to offer strategies for improving this experience that are grounded in evidence. Methods: We conducted a systematic review and qualitative meta-synthesis of the results, using grounded theory analysis methods (PROSPERO registration CRD42021262380), with literature published between January 2000 and February 2022. Seven databases were searched. Our review included literature about women with breech presentation, who sought a planned or unplanned VBB. Studies considering only experiences of alternative management (e.g. caesarean, external cephalic version), and those investigating healthcare workers’ experiences were excluded. Covidence systematic review software was used for screening and quality assessment. Qualitative data were extracted using NVivo software (20.5.0). Data were analysed through an iterative process based on constant comparison methods, with an iterative and reflexive code generation process. Codes were then arranged into ‘categories of experience’, which gave rise to over-arching themes. Results: Our review included 19 studies. We present one overarching theory: ‘Women who wish to plan a vaginal breech birth seek connected autonomy’. Our schematic, depicting this theory, includes seven main categories of experience: paternalistic healthcare; emotional turmoil; judgement and self-doubt; mother vs society: refusing to conform; isolated but united by breech; welcomed direction; and supported self-determination and self-efficacy. Conclusions: Women seeking to plan a VBB feel vulnerable and wish to connect with capable and confident healthcare providers. To meet their needs, services should be designed so that they can connect with clinicians who are willing and able to support their autonomy. Services should also seek to limit their exposure to disrespectful and judgemental interactions with healthcare providers.