This study explores Irish fathers' perceptions of parenting a child with Asperger syndrome (AS). Ethical approval was granted by the service provider, and Husserlian phenomenological approach facilitated the exploration. Data were collected through semi-structured interviews of nine fathers in the West region of Ireland. Data were transcribed and analysed using Colaizzi's (1978) method. The study highlighted that parenting a child with AS is an arduous task, but while there are difficulties, many positive aspects to their parenting experience were reported. Overall, the study highlights the importance of listening to parents and their initial concerns regarding their child's development.

Accessible summary• The relationship between brothers and sisters starts from infancy and is possibly the longest lasting relationship.• Many people with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) remain within the family home and are cared for by their family.• This article describes a sister's experience of growing up with her brother who has ASD SummaryPeople with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) are born into families and influence family functioning both positively and negatively. One of the most enduring relationships a person with ASD will have is their relationship with a brother or sister. Services for people with ASD should provide effective support to families, which include brothers, sisters, parents and broader family members and address the needs of the family as a whole in a holistic manner. This article outlines one sister's experience and reflections of growing up with her brother who has ASD. The article gives a voice to a sibling's experience and highlights the importance of brothers and sisters as part of the family unit in assisting parents.