The interaction between soil and structure is a research hotspot in ocean engineering, and the shear performance of interfaces is an essential factor affecting the bearing capacity of offshore structures. Taking the Yellow River Underwater Delta as the research area, the Softening/Hardening damage model of the silt–steel interface and the determination method of model parameters are proposed based on the statistical damage theory. Through the interface monotonic shear test under the conditions of different normal stress, roughness and water content, the shear mechanical properties and volumetric deformation laws on the silt–steel interface are analyzed, and the damage model parameters are obtained. Finally, a FRIC subroutine for the damage model was developed based on ABAQUS. The research results indicate the following: (1) The interface between silt and steel exhibits two characteristics, softening/hardening and shear shrinkage/expansion, under different conditions. Roughness significantly impacts interfacial cohesion, while water content mainly affects the internal friction angle. (2) The softening model based on the classic rock damage model can better simulate the stress–strain relationship of the silt–steel interface under high normal stress and low water content. In contrast, the hardening model based on the classic hyperbola model can better simulate the stress–strain relationship under low normal stress and high water content. The calculated results of the softening/hardening model agree with the experimental results, and the model has 7 parameters. (3) The developed FRIC subroutine can effectively simulate the nonlinear mechanical behavior of the interface between silt and steel. The research results provide a reference for exploring the stability analysis of offshore structures considering interface weakening effects.