“…Whilst I espouse many of the principles of relational psychoanalysis concerning the central significance and nature of the analytic relationship and of the actual interactions between patient and analyst (for example, Davies & Frawley , Boston Change Process Study Group , Bromberg ), I am critical of the practice of some relational practitioners who attempt to counter the patient's negative self‐feeling through the analyst's positive disposition, enactment of certain positively‐toned roles, or self‐disclosure; see for example Benjamin (), Beebe & Lachmann (, ) and, to some extent, Colman (), and as recommended in an informal way by K in his papers; (Meredith‐Owen [] makes a similar criticism to my own). I will explore this further below.…”