“…Two key findings are that fathers tend to engage in more gender‐differentiated childrearing than mothers do, more rigidly policing the boundaries of acceptable performances of gender for sons and daughters, and that sons tend to experience less flexibility than daughters when it comes to prescribed gender norms (Kane, 2006, 2012; McGuffey, 2005; Meadow, 2018; Stacey & Padavic, 2021; Sutfin et al., 2008; Witt, 1997). The predominant explanations offered for these two fundamental conclusions tend to be that fathers' performances of masculinity are inextricably linked with their children's performances of gender via accountability, particularly for sons, and that sons' gender nonconformity tends to be indicative of incipient homosexuality (Averett, 2016; Kane, 2006, 2012; K. A. Martin, 2005, 2009; Rahilly, 2018; Stacey & Padavic, 2021). Another important theme within this work is that parents describe feeling accountable to normative conceptions of masculinity or femininity based not only on their own performance of gender, but also their children's (Kane, 2006, 2012; Stacey & Padavic, 2021), such that parents feel their reputations as good parents are on the line in inculcating gender normativity.…”