This work presents a critical review of the use of exergy based control and optimization for efficiency improvements in energy networks, with a background of exergy based analysis given for context. Over the past three decades, a number of studies using exergy were conducted to gain a performance advantage for high energy consumption systems and networks. Due to their complexity and the increased scale of the systems, the opportunity to misuse energy inevitability leads to inefficient operations. The studies accomplished in this area are grouped into either control or optimization to highlight each method's ability to minimize system irreversibilities that lead to exergy destruction. The exergy based optimization and control studies featured demonstrate substantial improvements (as high as 40%) over traditional methods based on the first law of thermodynamics. This paper reviews the work completed in the area of exergy based optimization and control as of the end of September 2019, outlines the progress made, and identifies specific areas where future work can advance this area of study. A relatively small amount of publications are available compared to other fields, with most work occurring in the area of exergy based multi-objective optimization.