Introduction Socially assistive robots are devices designed to aid users through social interaction and companionship. Social robotics promise to support cognitive health and aging in place for older adults with and without dementia, as well as their care partners. However, while new and more advanced social robots are entering the commercial market, there are still major barriers to their adoption, including a lack of emotional alignment between users and their robots. Affect Control Theory (ACT) is a framework that allows for the computational modeling of emotional alignment between two partners. Methods We conducted a Canadian online survey capturing attitudes, emotions, and perspectives surrounding pet-like robots among older adults ( n = 171), care partners ( n = 28), and persons living with dementia ( n = 7). Results We demonstrate the potential of ACT to model the emotional relationship between older adult users and three exemplar robots. We also capture a rich description of participants’ robot attitudes through the lens of the Technology Acceptance Model, as well as the most important ethical concerns around social robot use. Conclusions Findings from this work will support the development of emotionally aligned, user-centered robots for older adults, care partners, and people living with dementia.