“…Omer and colleagues describe the use of non‐violent resistance in families where one person is abusive to others, which reminds us of some of the early work of Jay Haley and Milton Erickson (Haley, 1973). Of course, as fits a more collaborative era, Omer et al do not repeat the ‘trickery’ of those times but the purposive, yet respectful nature of their therapy is a reminder that strategic interventions that have a clear influencing intent (Bertrando, 2006; Eisler and Lask, 2008) continue to play a role in contemporary family therapy. Similarly, although Van Lawick and Bom describe in detail how they are able to use a collaborative stance with ‘hard‐to‐engage’ families, their work seems to echo that of Minuchin (Minuchin et al , 1967) in the inner city of New York.…”