We consider partitioned time integration for heterogeneous coupled heat equations. First and second order multirate, as well as time‐adaptive Dirichlet‐Neumann Waveform relaxation (DNWR) methods are derived. In 1D and for implicit Euler time integration, we analytically determine optimal relaxation parameters for the fully discrete scheme.We test the robustness of the relaxation parameters on the second order multirate method in 2D. DNWR is shown to be very robust and consistently yielding fast convergence rates, whereas the closely related Neumann‐Neumann Waveform relaxtion (NNWR) method is slower or even diverges.The waveform approach naturally allows for different timesteps in the subproblems. In a performance comparison for DNWR, the time‐adaptive method dominates the multirate method due to automatically finding suitable stepsize ratios. Overall, we obtain a fast, robust, multirate and time adaptive partitioned solver for unsteady conjugate heat transfer.