‘Loving Many’: Polyamorous Love, Gender and Identity

Cascais, António Fernando; Cardoso, Daniel

doi:10.1163/9781848882089_004

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“…In a similar vein, research on CNM that draws feminist and queer scholarship unearths the importance of personal growth as well as a resistance to cultural ideals of (compulsory) heterosexual monogamous marriage (e.g., Barker, 2005;Cascais & Cardoso, 2012;Jackson & Scott, 2004;Klesse, 2006;Moors & Schechinger, 2014;Rosa, 1994;Wilkinson, 2010;. People who practice CNM are actively engaging with and resisting gender, sexuality, and relationship normative standards.…”

Section: Individual Growth and Developmentmentioning

confidence: 99%

“…Cultural ideals of heterosexual monogamous marriage also influence the ways in which gay men form romantic relationships, as some men (especially younger men) conform to these ideals that may not best fit their or their partner's preferences (van Eeden-Moorefield, Malloy, & Benson, 2016). Although CNM relationships can provide a space for resistance, Cascais and Cardoso (2012) found that during the initial stages of moving from monogamy to CNM (particularly polyamory), patriarchal reasoning (e.g., words marking ownership or power differentials) is often still present when people are describing their new relationship(s).…”

Section: Individual Growth and Developmentmentioning

confidence: 99%

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Unique and Shared Relationship Benefits of Consensually Non-Monogamous and Monogamous Relationships

Moors

Matsick

Schechinger

2017

European Psychologist

129

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Abstract. The increased media and public curiosity on the topic of consensual non-monogamy (CNM) presents an interesting case, given that these types of relationships are highly stigmatized. In the present review piece, we first situate common themes of benefits that people believe are afforded to them by their CNM relationships within the current state of the literature to provide insight into unique and shared (with monogamy) relationship benefits. This approach helps uncover relationship benefits and theoretical advances for research on CNM by highlighting some of the key features of CNM relationships that people find rewarding, including need fulfillment, variety of activities, and personal growth and development. Second, we discuss common misconceptions about CNM and stigma toward CNM. Finally, we conclude with future directions and recommendations for scholars interested in pursuing research on CNM.

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Section: Individual Growth and Developmentmentioning

confidence: 99%

Section: Individual Growth and Developmentmentioning

confidence: 99%

Unique and Shared Relationship Benefits of Consensually Non-Monogamous and Monogamous Relationships

Moors

Matsick

Schechinger

2017

European Psychologist

129

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“…In these two extracts, the participant discusses a different view of masculinity from Benito, as masculinity is performed with more dominance and control rather than equality and autonomy (Anapol, 2010). CNM are not exempt from dynamics of power and imbalance, as Cascais and Cardoso (2013) have shown, and some narrative repertoires might often imbued with benevolent sexism and patriarchal assumptions related to possession and power; they suggest this mostly happens in the discourses of "new" people to non-monogamies, therefore in the passage from monogamous relations to non-monogamous. Although there are narrative repertoires of "care" and "mentoring" within participants' accounts, there is also the risk that caring becomes paternalistic (Ziegler et al, 2014).…”

Section: Masculinity As Caring Partnersmentioning

confidence: 94%

Stories Told Together: Male Narratives of Non-Monogamous Bi+ and Heterosexual Men

Castro

2021

Arch Sex Behav

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The stories we tell about our identities and sexual orientations shape how we perform gendered scripts and negotiate relationships with significant others. Previous literature inquired the styles and outcomes of consensual non-monogamous (CNM) relationships, but more research is need on how CNM men resist or abide to hegemonic models of masculinity. To understand how constructions of masculinity and conceptualizations of sexual orientation are embedded in CNMs, the study analysed the stories of non-monogamous Bi+ and heterosexual men. Following a critical narrative approach, the study inquired the diverse conceptualizations of masculinity, sexual orientation and relationship practices in the narratives of 20 non-monogamous Bi+ and heterosexual identified men. The semi-structured in-depth narrative interviews (105 min on average) were analyzed via Nvivo 12 and explored their stories of desire and the sense-making process of being sexually oriented to one or more genders and to one or more partner/s. Engaging in non-monogamy was signified as a relevant insight from their personal stories and/or from adopting new concepts of desire beyond the “love as a zero-sum game.” The latter theme was also shared by many heterosexual participants that, when negotiating a non-monogamous agreement, signified their attractions to more than one person as part of their personal identity. Finally, the paper discusses how non-monogamous spaces can offer a positive and safe space for bisexuals/Bi+ people to explore and reaffirm their identities, constantly challenged by biphobia, invisibility, and erasure. Experiences and stories of Italian cisgender Bi+ and heterosexual men cannot be generalized to the whole spectrum of masculinities within CNM spaces, and the study lacks how other gendered and sexual subjectivities construct masculinity. Diverse stories and construction of sexuality and gender can lead to similar relationship preferences and understanding how we signify them can greatly improve our understanding of intimacies.

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Does “Open” Rhyme with “Special”? Comparing Personality, Sexual Satisfaction, Dominance and Jealousy of Monogamous and Non-monogamous Practitioners

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‘Loving Many’: Polyamorous Love, Gender and Identity

Cited by 6 publications

References 2 publications

Unique and Shared Relationship Benefits of Consensually Non-Monogamous and Monogamous Relationships

Unique and Shared Relationship Benefits of Consensually Non-Monogamous and Monogamous Relationships

Stories Told Together: Male Narratives of Non-Monogamous Bi+ and Heterosexual Men

Does “Open” Rhyme with “Special”? Comparing Personality, Sexual Satisfaction, Dominance and Jealousy of Monogamous and Non-monogamous Practitioners

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