Though intimate partner violence (IPV) is predominately understood as a women"s health issue most often emerging within heterosexual relationships, there is increasing recognition of the existence of male victims of IPV. In this qualitative study we explored connections between masculinities and IPV among gay men. The findings highlight how "recognising IPV" was based on an array of participant experiences including emotional, physical and sexual abuse inflicted by their partner, which in turn led to three processes. "Normalising and/or concealing violence" referred to participants" complicity in accepting violence as part of their relationship and reticence for disclosing that they were victims of IPV. "Realising a way out" included participants' understandings that the triggers for, and patterns of, IPV would best be quelled by leaving the relationship. "Nurturing recovery" detailed strategies employed by participants to mend and sustain their well-being in the aftermath of leaving an abusive relationship. In terms of masculinities and men"s health research, the findings reveal the limits of idealising hegemonic masculinities and gender relations as heterosexual, while highlighting a plurality of gay masculinities and the need for IPV support services that bridge male/female as well as the homo/heterosexual divides.Word count: 192 4