If normalΣ and Σ′ are homotopic embedded surfaces in a 4‐manifold, then they may be related by a regular homotopy (at the expense of introducing double points) or by a sequence of stabilisations and destabilisations (at the expense of adding genus). This naturally gives rise to two integer‐valued notions of distance between the embeddings: the singularity distance dsingfalse(normalΣ,Σ′false) and the stabilisation distance dprefixstfalse(normalΣ,Σ′false). Using techniques similar to those used by Gabai in his proof of the 4‐dimensional light bulb theorem, we prove that dprefixstfalse(normalΣ,Σ′false)⩽dsingfalse(normalΣ,Σ′false)+1.