We present a model and a narrative on food care to support reflection and dialogue, i.e. the exchange of ideas or opinions between patients, informal caregivers and care professionals, as a way to specifically explore values and perspectives on the use of technologies within care triads. To this end, we used an explorative literature study and an analysis of a care practice. We propose that care professionals have the responsibility to be sensitive to and act on potential dilemmas with the use of technologies in (food) care practice. This requires explicit thinking about one’s own personal perspectives on health and food, care and technologies, and the possible perspectives of others, in achieving a fair balance in care. The ‘Dilemma Model of Technology and Care Relations’ is presented to facilitate dialogue between patients, informal caregivers and professionals, in healthcare as well as in (food) technology. The model can be used both in the workplace and in educational settings. In conclusion, contrasting values and perspectives show that an open dialogue is needed to decide what is good (food) care in each individual care practice.