“Posthumous Disillusionment” as a Type of Complicated Grief

Abstract

This article develops a theoretical concept that delineates the experience of disillusionment toward a deceased loved-one during the grieving process. Through clinical anecdote, film and autobiography, possible therapeutic initiatives are identified which may provide pastoral and clinical approaches to assist those whose grief is complicated by distressing and unexpected revelations requiring a reevaluation of their relationship with the loved-one who has died.

Trauma in Children and Adolescents: Issues Related to Age and Complex Traumatic Reactions

“…Revelation of distressing events and/or behaviors of the now deceased person prior to death may change a core set of beliefs about and interpretations of the person who has died and consequently may change the perception of the nature of the relationship with the deceased (Stalfa, 2010). A sense of betrayal may be prominent.…”

Making Meaning

“…This can be a time where we uncover new information that forces questions about our immediate family history. Stalfa introduced the theoretical concept of 'posthumous disillusionment' or what he refers to as 'an identity crisis in the midst of grief' sparked by revelations about the deceased [33]. This can be especially pertinent to suicide, leading to the presence of unanswerable questions (why did I not realise there was a problem?).…”