We present general analytical criteria for the precise design of symmetric or "antimetric" 2-port systems, including ideal standard filters (Chebyshev, elliptic, etc.), based on the non-normalized resonant (quasi-normal) modes of the system. We first develop a quasi-normal mode theory (QNMT) to calculate a system's scattering S matrix, satisfying both energy conservation and reciprocity, and describe how low-Q modes can be combined into an effective slowly varying background response C. We then show that the resonant QNM fields of all lossless reciprocal 2-port systems with a symmetric (S22 = S11) or "antimetric" (S22 = −S11) response couple to the input and output ports with specific unitary ratios, whose relative signs determine the position of the scattering zeros. This allows us to obtain design criteria assigning values to the poles, background response, and QNMto-ports coupling coefficients. Filter devices can then be designed via a well-conditioned nonlinear optimization (or root-finding) problem using a numerical eigensolver. As an example application, we design microwave metasurface filters that precisely match standard amplitude filters of various orders and bandwidths, with focus on the best-performing elliptic filters.