Peer support has become a growing source of consolation for individuals in contemporary social life. This article examines the social bond between selves and their fellow sufferers 'sharing the same fate' in support groups and personal networks. Analyzed fateful conditions include serious illness, premature loss of a spouse through death or abandonment, infertility and family disruptions. The results show that selves colonized by agonizing life experiences confront social isolation and turn to their fellow sufferers in order to find understanding. A distinct kind of social bond is proposed between fellow sufferers involving sharing at the level of generalized experiences. Further analysis of different states of the bonds and their consequences is drawn from Thomas Scheff's distinction of the social bond as one of three states: attuned, engulfed or isolated. When attuned to fellow sufferers, peer support can be genuinely self-empowering and healing, but also other consequences emerge. In engulfed bonds with fellow sufferers, the particular self stands at risk of being overpowered by others. Isolated bonds with fellow sufferers may not be capable of breaking the lonely state of suffering. This paper provides an elaborate empirical understanding of the interplay between fate, the social and the individual in the context of peer support. The data is made up of repeated in-depth interviews with 22 Finnish women and men that contain narrated life stories, accompanied by information about their networks of significant others and support contacts.