Simultaneous love: an argument on love, modernity and the feminist subject at the beginning of the twentieth century

Arni, Caroline

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“…Permanence cannot be forced on a relationship from without. If a caring, supportive, and companionate role is to be accepted by women, it must be inspired and sustained by an unconditional and enduring love of the type described by Factor B, not enforced by gender roles or ‘propped up’ by the institutional scaffolding of marriage (Arni, ).…”

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“…Factor C understands love in passionate terms, as a powerful and short‐term feeling driven primarily by the pursuit of sex, fun, and excitement. This historically masculine emphasis on the potentially uncontrollable and anarchical feelings of passionate love has long been considered a threat to the stability of intimate relationships (Arni, ). It makes sense, therefore, that Factor C goes on to exploit these qualities as a means of challenging the whole idea of exclusive companionship.…”

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“…Historically, this masculine emphasis on the uncontrollable and potentially anarchical feelings of passionate love has long been considered a threat to the stability of intimate relationships (Arni, ). Men even tend to over‐perceive the sexual interest of their opposite‐sex friends and to cite a lack of sex as a good reason for dissolving such friendships (Bleske‐Rechek & Buss, ; Koenig, Kirkpatrick, & Ketelaar, ).…”

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“…Until the early 1960s, most British women considered the gendered roles of male – breadwinner and female – homemaker to be fundamental to the success of loving relationships (Wilkinson & Mulgan, ). Within this so‐called companionship blueprint of love (Cancian, ), the adverse effects of male passion and individualism were effectively being countered by the female – homemaker, by the religious and institutional scaffolding of marriage, and also by the ‘constancy…marital love, and social cohesion…associated with women’ (Arni, , p. 190). Such cohesion often emerged, however, not through genuine feelings of love and affection, but on the basis of role obligation, institutional duty, and a simple lack of alternatives for women.…”

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Definitions of love in a sample of British women: An empirical study using Q methodology

Watts

Stenner

2013

Br. J. Soc. Psychol.

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Social psychological research has increasingly acknowledged that any pretensions to a singular theory of love should be replaced with a concern about its affirmation and what people actually say and do in love's name. Lee's (1977) love styles research and Sternberg's (1995) theory of love as a story are prime examples. Despite traditional definitions of love in western cultures being dominated by feminine images and tales of gender difference, however, the personal definitions and experiences of women have received comparatively little empirical attention, particularly in recent years and despite some well-documented changes in their cultural circumstances. This study remedies that situation through presentation of a Q methodological study in which a convenience sample of 59 British women were asked to Q sort 54 single-word descriptors of love to define love as they had experienced it. Factor analysis of the resulting Q sorts revealed six distinct definitions of love, interpreted as 'attraction, passion & romance', 'unconditional love', 'sex & fun', 'friendship & spirituality', 'a permanent commitment', and 'separate people, separate lives'. The six definitions are then discussed in terms of their allegiance to traditionally feminine and/or masculine values and as a means of highlighting the changing face of Britain's relational culture.

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Section: Introductionmentioning

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2013

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“…The emergence of new marriage ideals is coincident with the rise of values of individualism, choice, and equality in Western modernity. Twentieth-century debates about the incompatibility of passionate love and the institution of marriage have been framed in terms of modernity, even though this question was debated in Europe beginning in the twelfth century (Arni 2004). According to Caroline Arni, at the beginning of the twentieth century in German-speaking countries, love gained authenticity as an egalitarianand modernrelationship between individuals who chose mates based on personal characteristics, not for material interest, social convention, or stability.…”

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Arranging Love: Interrogating the Vantage Point in Cross‐Border Feminism

Khandelwal

2009

Signs: Journal of Women in Culture and Society

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JSTOR is a not-for-profit service that helps scholars, researchers, and students discover, use, and build upon a wide range of content in a trusted digital archive. We use information technology and tools to increase productivity and facilitate new forms of scholarship. For more information about JSTOR, please contact support@jstor.org.The University of Chicago Press is collaborating with JSTOR to digitize, preserve and extend access to Signs. Arranging Love: Interrogating the Vantage Point in Cross-Border Feminism issues of cultural difference and relativism remain fraught ones in feminist teaching and research. Transnational feminists based in the United States have grappled with the question of how to work across national borders without reinforcing colonial tropes and practices (Mohanty 1988, 2003; Grewal and Kaplan 1994, 2001). Feminist scholars have criticized the way particular gendered practices of postcolonial societies are singled out as representing the society writ large, exoticized and sensationalized, while practices that are either more egalitarian or more familiar to a U.S. audience remain invisible. For example, they have eloquently critiqued discourses of sari and dowry (Narayan 1997, 1998), veiling (Abu-Lughod 2002), and female circumcision (Nnaemeka 2005). In my view, however, feminist scholars have yet to fully address the challenges of cross-border analysis. Most people in the United States, including students, the general public, and some feminists, consistently overestimate their own agency in the face of discursive and institutional structures and underestimate that of women elsewhereand this occurs in a contemporary U.S. context where agency defines personhood. Discourses of exaggerated cultural difference serve national interests, and feminist scholars have pursued various strategies to undo them. A conventional comparative approach that assumes cultures to be distinct from one another (only different entities are comparable) has led some scholars to highlight the empowering aspects of cultural practices in order to counter ethnocentric discourses about foreign (and domestic) others. For example, one might explore the political and I am indebted to SIGNS Spring 2009 I 585 is central not only to externally imposed stereotypes of India but also to diasporic Indian identity, whether experienced positively or as a source of generational conflict (Baumann 1996, 153; Raj 2003, 106). As Sandhya Shukla writes in India Abroad, "Arranged marriages, in particular, are central to the production of meaning of ethnic community in a variety of ways. Not only do they describe a basic form of reproduction of that community and retention of certain forms of membership, but they also function as hyper-symptoms of misrecognition between East and West, that which continues to make immigrant communities, especially in Britain and the United States, unknowable, exotic, and mired in tradition" (Shukla 2003, 223). Tensions between arranged marriage and romantic desire are pivotal to the narratives and humor of ...

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Herzog

2011

Sexuality in Europe

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Simultaneous love: an argument on love, modernity and the feminist subject at the beginning of the twentieth century

Cited by 7 publications

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Definitions of love in a sample of British women: An empirical study using Q methodology

Definitions of love in a sample of British women: An empirical study using Q methodology

Arranging Love: Interrogating the Vantage Point in Cross‐Border Feminism

Reconceiving sexuality 1900???1914

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