“…The associative processing in secure base schema may be considered as knowledge of "how to be with someone" (Lyons-Ruth, 1998;Davis, 2001). It includes some implicit relational expectations, emotional responses, skills and habits that are elaborated and modified in important relationships during the life course, e.g., knowing how to express affection and how to get attention (Davis, 2001;Knox, 1999Knox, , 2001Knox, , 2003. It cannot be shared with others, and may never become symbolically coded.…”