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Today, marriage has changed from a one‐vote to a two‐vote system. This offers a better relationship, but it is more difficult to manage, and, consequently, there are many failures. Two solutions are currently being offered: (a) education as information‐giving, which is often not acted upon; and (b) therapy, which can come too late to be effective. Both systems must be retained. But a third process, marriage enrichment, applies our new knowledge preventively, promises to be more effective, and needs to be more widely understood and applied.

The view is advanced that the fundamental cause of marital failure in our time is the inability to resolve the anger which is inevitably generated in an intimate relationship. The nature of anger, its impact on a love relationship, and its constructive management in marriage are examined. The concept of training couples in “marital fighting” is rejected in favor of a three‐step procedure which the author has tested out in his own marriage, and taught to other couples, with very satisfactory results.

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