SARS-CoV-2, the causative agent of the COVID-19 pandemic, is an enveloped RNA virus. Trimeric spike glycoproteins extend outward from the virion; these class I viral membrane fusion proteins mediate entry of the virus into a host cell and are the dominant antigen for immune response. Cryo-EM studies have generated a large number of structures for the spike either alone, or bound to the cognate receptor ACE2 or antibodies, with the three receptor binding domains (RBDs) seen closed, open, or in various combinations. Binding to ACE2 requires an open RBD, and is believed to trigger the series of dramatic conformational changes in the spike that lead to the shedding of the S1 subunit and transition of the spring-loaded S2 subunit to the experimentally observed post-fusion structure. The steps following ACE2 binding are poorly understood despite extensive characterization of the spike through X-ray, cryo-EM, and computation. Here, we use all-atom simulations, guided by analysis of 81 existing experimental structures, to develop a model for the structural and energetic coupling that connects receptor binding to activation of the membrane fusion machinery.