“…Respectable gays present their sexual orientation as an accidental, non-essential, property of their personality; they do not take it to determine who they are. With gay marriage, the journey 27 For a critique of this rationalistic paradigm which leaves out gay experience, subjectivity, fantasy, sex and desire, see Adam (2011), Race (2012), Dean (2011Dean ( , 2012Dean ( , 2015aDean ( , 2015b, Halperin (2016), Trachman and Girard (2018). 28 In Germany, for example, there is a correlation between the growing political power of the homophobic right-wing populist party AfD, the rise of homophobic attitudes (LSVD n.d.; Decker and Kiess 2016, p. 51), and the rise of homophobic hate crimes (Beiker 2017), that many actors interpret as a causation (LSVD 2017).…”