Aiming at the sticking phenomenon between the valve core and the valve sleeve when the valve core moves, and to solve the problem that the torque required to drive the valve core to rotate is large, the fluid–solid coupling simulation analysis of the valve core is carried out in this study, and then the valve core structure of the valve core is improved and its parameters are optimized based on the bird colony algorithm. The combination structure of the valve sleeve and valve core is studied, and the fluid–solid coupling model is established by Ansys WorkBench, and the static structure simulation analysis of valve sleeve and valve core before and after structural improvement and parameter optimization is performed. The mathematical models of triangular buffer tank, U-shaped buffer tank and combined buffer tank are established, and the structural parameters of the combined buffer tank are optimized by bird swarm optimization. The results demonstrate the triangular buffer tank has good depressurization effect but great impact, the pressure of the U-shaped buffer tank is stable and gentle but the depressurization effect is not ideal, while the combined buffer tank has obvious depressurization effect and good stability. At the same time, the optimal structural parameters of the combined buffer tank are cut-in angle of 72, plane angle of 60 and depth of 1.65 mm. The excellent structure and parameters of the combined buffer groove are obtained, so that the pressure buffer of the regulating valve at the key position of the valve port achieves the best effect, and an effective solution is provided for solving the sticking problem of the valve core of the regulating valve when working.